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What's in your attic?

Jun 5, 2020
2 min

What's in your attic?

You probably have a place in your house where you store stuff, maybe an attic or cellar. A cupboard or even the infamous drawer (You know the one that you risk your life to look inside fearing its contents will jump out like a jack-in-the-box) These spaces create a place to store aspects and objects of your life, a place of safety and security for possessions. No longer needed in the day to day, a place to hide baggage and junk that we plan to get rid of some day. A space to

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Why should I change when they are the problem?

Jul 15, 2019
3 min

Why should I change when they are the problem?

This can be a common belief or misconception depending on how you look at it. Why should you have to change, when you feel that it's someone else's behaviours that are impacting and causing the problem? "Help me to change them" can be a common request from clients frustrated by colleagues, a partner, a child or a family member that is quite frankly "doing their head in". This can also feel stressful, despairing or provoke anger for you. Those scenarios that crop up most comm

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Fighting Fear or Fearing Fight?

Apr 14, 2019
3 min

Fighting Fear or Fearing Fight?

"I tremble, therefore I am afraid" Emotion is the context dependent perception of changes in the physiological condition of the body. ( Seth, A ; 30-Second Brain ) Fear is a pretty strong emotion, and it's roots are often unique to each and everyone's experience. It is after all a generalised description. What is frightening or causes fear for one person is not the same in others...Us NLPers refer to this type of labelling as a Normalisation.... a big chunk word to descri

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Growing roots, branching out - finding you through language.

Apr 8, 2019
3 min

Growing roots, branching out - finding you through language.

Our language is coloured by metaphors that help us to make meaning of the world, or even distance our self from what it presents. A metaphor, by definition, is a statement that describes a representation; symbolic of something else. ... A figure of speech.... Indeed, consciously creating a metaphor for yourself can be powerful when visualising or resourcing yourself (A bit like creating a spirit animal), It's a bit of "woowoo" I can totally engage with. Over the years of

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The Con Troll

Mar 4, 2019
3 min

The Con Troll

Are you someone who feels fear or anxiety set in when things feel like they are not going to plan, when the unexpected happens or things look set to fail? When things feel out of control for some of us this can be a really scary, unpleasant place to be for ourselves and often for other around us as well. Who have to contend with reaction such as anger, frustration, being ignored while we attempt to cool off or perhaps deal with distress or silence when we are limited in how o

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Comfort in Difference -discovering self.

Dec 24, 2018
3 min

Comfort in Difference -discovering self.

As we (hopefully) wind down for the festive period there is a chance to reflect on the years past and look ahead to the future and what opportunities life can bring. For me, it is a time to reflect on the wonderful and creative differences that I get to experience in my work and life and look forward to those connections I discover in 2019 and beyond. At one time in my life difference seemed daunting, and unnerving and resulted in my closing down to opportunities, adventures

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