Are you just getting started with figuring out what it is you want to be different in your life?
Maybe this "change" malarkey is new territory and you don't really feel you know where you want to start with it all?
Be reassured, this can be part of the process. Figuring out the starting line.
Have you felt a little unrest ( or maybe even excitement) perhaps. Represented by a feeling somewhere in your body, or a lingering thought or question? Maybe today you saw or experienced something differently perhaps and it threw things a little off kilter?
You noticed your stomach was in a few extra knots?
You heard a different tone in the voice in your boss/family/friend that you hadn't noticed before and this gave you some sort of new meaning? A word stuck in the air and caught your attention, it posed a new perspective in the way it delayed your thought? Perhaps it was that one thing that happened one time too many times and you don't know what to do now? Maybe it feels like you are searching for answers to something you haven't quite figured out what the question was in the first place?
People say things like "ooh I'm all out of sorts" or "It doesn't quite fit" or ask themselves questions like "what now?" or your thoughts lead to statements like " it needs to be different"
You may not be feeling sad or negative, this might also be a moment of curiosity, confusion or intrigue.... This experience of awareness or contemplation is unique to you.
I want to relate this moment to when I try to make a manoeuvre in my car and I miss the gear, I give it another go and I miss it again. I do it a third time and the gear engages. I don't really notice what I have or am doing differently. However each time, something in the way the mechanics work, or the movement I make is subtle in the way the action comes together. There is subtlety in considering the difference we need or desire to make the change we want. The smallest of movements, the most fleeting of thoughts could be that epiphany moment for you.
If you think that you want to do something differently or change something in your life, there are some great tools out there to help you get started alone. A simple one to explore is The Wheel of Life there are various websites you can download templates from for free or just draw your own even.
The wheel focuses on areas of your life, and I have detailed some common areas to focus on below. You can of course choose your own or similar headings.
SOME HEADING IDEAS:
Business, Career & Studies: Is your Job/Business/Education where you want it to be by now? Do you have plans that satisfy your development and job satisfaction?
Finance & Budget: Is your money situation what you want it to be? Are you planning ahead for your future financial situations?
Health & Fitness: How physically healthy are you? Are you happy with your health, diet and fitness? Do you feel content with your health and what you do for it?
Self-Image - Do you respect yourself and your abilities? Are you content with who you? Are you proud of your abilities?
Social & Friends: Are your friends supportive of you? Are you satisfied with your social engagements and interactions?
Family: Is your family supportive of you? Are you supportive of your family? •
Love & Respect: Do you feel loved and Respected? How often are you expressing love and respect to others? Do you love and Respect who you are?
Connection and Contribution: How would others rate your contribution to society or them as individuals?
Personal Growth: How focused are you on personal growth? Are you clear and happy about the direction you wish to take to grow?
Fun & Hobbies: Are you enjoying your life and making it fun? Are you satisfied with the level of activity that you do?
Spirituality and Connection - Are you connected to something that brings you value? Do you feel you are satisfied with yourself as a spiritual being in what ever way you wish to represent this?
WHAT TO DO:
Score each one 0-10 for where you are now (for each heading)?
Take time to reflect on the areas and consider anything that comes to mind which you feel is important to note in respect to the score you have given?
Make any notes about key factors to this score -If you don't want to write them down say them aloud or in your head.
From here you can start to be clearer about some of the aspects of life you may want to explore the possibility of change in. This simple activity can also help with identifying a key goal or achievement that you would like to see in your life. From here you can explore the smaller steps you wish to take to get you to your end goal in the form of an action plan. Goals are best explored in the frame of what you want instead of what you don't want.
It may be that there are a few barriers you find in your way and you wish to explore these with someone like a coach or counsellor, a trusted friend or family member to gain new perspectives.
Enjoy. If you use this tool for the first time or have used one before, leave a comment on how you found it if you wish.