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Creating a self-care movement. #MDBM

Dec 2, 2019
3 min

Creating a self-care movement. #MDBM

I am going to let you into a little secret, I recently embarked on a new self-care movement and it's beginning to catch on! I introduce you to the #MDBM or Mid Day Bath Movement. It all began when, working a long day of an admin/client mix I had been slogging away at the "to do and not yet forgotten" list... (you know the one... where you have left particular tasks for as long is as possible before they go from "aspiration" to "priority". ). The seasons had just started to c

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Unlearning - letting go of stuff that doesn't help

Aug 19, 2019
4 min

Unlearning - letting go of stuff that doesn't help

We spend much of our life focused on learning and expanding our knowledge and breadth of skills to do the things we want to achieve in life. Progressing in a career, completing a new course or qualification, learning to be a parent or a partner. Learning a new hobby, craft or sport.... The things we learn help us to grow and expand our world. Adding layer upon layer to us. Not enough kudos is given to the process of unlearning. By this I mean letting go of something you lea

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How do I change that?

May 20, 2019
3 min

How do I change that?

When does a problem become a problem? Mostly when we notice it! OK so we may have some inkling its an issue from feedback, or because it breaks a societal expectation, perhaps gaining some awareness of an issue from the opinions of others. So often our desire to change it and take action rarely occurs until the problem gets into our view point, stops us doing something we aspire to achieve or gets in the way of leading a happy or healthy life. I often hear phrases like " I

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Finding the Balance #2

Apr 23, 2019
3 min

Finding the Balance #2

I am on my last day of holidays following a fabulous break in Scotland (hence a slightly later blog post then normal). "advocates for well-being" such as coaches/therapists/counsellors/mindful practitioners and Yogi's. We are always harping on about work-life balance and there is a reason for this.... the focus here is optimising your enjoyment and capacity for a peaceful and healthy life. I have a confession! I used to get the balance terribly wrong! These were the "gooey"

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Fighting Fear or Fearing Fight?

Apr 14, 2019
3 min

Fighting Fear or Fearing Fight?

"I tremble, therefore I am afraid" Emotion is the context dependent perception of changes in the physiological condition of the body. ( Seth, A ; 30-Second Brain ) Fear is a pretty strong emotion, and it's roots are often unique to each and everyone's experience. It is after all a generalised description. What is frightening or causes fear for one person is not the same in others...Us NLPers refer to this type of labelling as a Normalisation.... a big chunk word to descri

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Growing roots, branching out - finding you through language.

Apr 8, 2019
3 min

Growing roots, branching out - finding you through language.

Our language is coloured by metaphors that help us to make meaning of the world, or even distance our self from what it presents. A metaphor, by definition, is a statement that describes a representation; symbolic of something else. ... A figure of speech.... Indeed, consciously creating a metaphor for yourself can be powerful when visualising or resourcing yourself (A bit like creating a spirit animal), It's a bit of "woowoo" I can totally engage with. Over the years of

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The Comfort Zone - Finding your limits

Feb 18, 2019
3 min

The Comfort Zone - Finding your limits

You may have seen me talk about a statement " The map is not the territory". This statement has proved really useful for clients, who have felt limited to do or get what you want. To explain this phrase simply I would start by saying, we know we are unique... each experience is not an exact imprint of another human, to our knowledge. Our perspective on life, our experience of the world is what we make it and with that we build ourselves walls, fence ourselves into a system

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Finding Space in your day.

Jan 28, 2019
5 min

Finding Space in your day.

Finding space in your day can be a challenging thing at times and so often is something we don’t prioritise. Are you finding you work over lunch breaks, don’t take breaks at all? Work overtime? When you get home you are straight into routines…still not switched off from a busy day of meetings, networking, deadlines, emails, finishing jobs and helping other people out….. Feeling head-full and energy low? So why can we be so neglectful in prioritising space in our day and how d

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